I imagine hate as a chain that binds you to that person. When you continue to hate them, you’re keeping the chain. You’re still connected to them.

Why stay connected to them?

Why are you maintaining the chain? Does doing so bring up negative feelings for you? If so, why do you want to hold onto those negative feelings?

It takes a significant amount of personal energy and power to maintain that chain, to keep up the hatred and anger. I guarantee you that your energy and power can be redirected to better, more positive uses than continuing to stoke your anger.

If you’re considering a job switch, or starting a freelance job on the side, or if you’re facing some other sort of big decision and you’re stressing out over it, here are some questions to consider to help you overcome your fear and soar.

People experiencing imposter syndrome often attribute their accomplishments to luck rather than to ability. They fear that they will eventually be exposed as a fraud.

They may feel like they aren’t enough, and it can be a deep-seated story they tell themselves.

If this sounds like you, there are three powerful words that might change your life: “I am enough.”

Seven years ago, on May 22, 2015, I officially formed SparkNonprofit to develop fundraising strategies so nonprofits raise more money and build stronger relationships. Last year, I added a new service: executive coaching. I help nonprofit CEOs, directors, and senior professionals envision a better future, achieve more, and find peace, joy, and satisfaction.

What I’m here to do is help people figure out how to be more effective and more satisfied. Here’s a look back on my path to nonprofit consultant and leadership coach and what I’ve learned along the way, as well as some advice for budding solopreneurs.

It can be lonely as a CEO or top director. There aren’t many people you can confide in. You may not have an open, supportive relationship with your board chair.

Wherever you are in your career as a leader, executive coaching can help you achieve your goals. Through one-on-one coaching, I help you align your thinking with where you want to go. It’s your thinking and your beliefs that drive your performance and determine your results. By examining your thinking, you can make positive changes that will lead to better outcomes.

Executive coaching can benefit CEOs, executive directors, and senior professionals who want to lead their team, reach even higher levels of success, and find meaning, peace, joy, and satisfaction along the way.

Life is continually changing and evolving. Sometimes things end. We lose something important; we get fired; we are rejected. We can look at this as a door that closes.*

However, the end of one thing is the beginning of another. We can choose to stay focused on what is not here anymore (the doors that closed) or to be aware of the new doors that are open before us.

The ability to pause and reframe our thinking is a powerful tool in our professional toolbox and helps us be better leaders.

Here’s what I mean:

We all have a dialogue that runs through our heads about other people. We tell ourselves stories about them.

Sometimes those stories are just that — made-up stories in our minds.

There’s a simple exercise you can do right now, in the next three minutes, to help stop limiting beliefs and improve your performance as a leader:

Pick up your cell phone.

Open the notes function.

Make a quick list of three things that the board has done in the last six months to demonstrate their support of you and the organization.

It sounds simple, and it is. But it’s also powerful.